If you plan to go on a diet, don’t just do so in a rush; you might find yourself losing weight and then back again, if not worst, to your previous weight. This will cause you a lot of disappointment and if you are this kind of person, depression.
I have discovered that losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight is a lot of work and discipline. Some people just see this as vanity but I don’t see wanting to be healthy so that I can have a longer life as vanity.
I am a VA. My work requires me to sit in front of the computer for 16 hours, if not more. Because of this prolonged position of sitting, I gained weight. Well, not really, I gained weight when I had my first baby. But I eventually lose some pounds off. But when I became a fulltime VA, it all came back with a vengeance.
My decision to lose my weight is not entirely on aesthetic. The truth is that my husband would have me fat or thin – no difference for him. However, with the weight, I felt my energy ebbing. I don’t have the flexibility or agility that I used to have. And I can’t blame age as am not that old yet.
Lost of energy and lack of agility means I don’t have the ability to play with my kids. And this thought, saddens me. The reason why I want to work at home is to be with my kids but as it turned out, I am not able to be there for them as I envisioned me to be because I just can’t.
I know I was not healthy with my weight.
And so, I decided to lose weight. I decided to lose weight last 2012. I went trekking just to tell myself I am determined to be active and healthy. And I went on a month diet strictly following the pilot’s diet. I lost some pounds but as I mentioned above, we really can’t just decide to go on a diet spree. Eventually, we will be at lost. Diet needs to have a plan. And there is quite a science, albeit a simple one, behind the plan.
As an article writer, I was able to write and read a lot about weight loss. I realized that weight loss is about three things: discipline, determination and a way of life. Here is a path to weight loss that I went through.
- Self evaluation and acceptance. You have to accept to yourself that you are in weight that is not healthy and is keeping you from doing what you love to do. Knowing that you are beyond the healthy weight is not enough. When I gained weight, I was in denial for a while that I need to lose the weight. I am already married and I don’t need to look pretty, I thought. But as I mentioned, it is not just looking good that made me realize I have to lose the extra pounds. It’s the idea of being able to do the activities I used to do with my nephew and nieces when they were young to my kids now. So I have to accept that my weight is not healthy and I have to lose the pounds that are weighting me down, physically and emotionally.
- Belief. Okay, I realized I am over weight at 165 pounds with my 5 feet frame. The thing was that, I thought I was at a point of no return. I thought I was too fat to ever lose it. And if I lose that weight, I can just imagine the flappy skin! But again, I did not decide to lose weight to look beautiful. I just want to be healthy, to feel healthy. So I summoned this belief in myself that I will be able to lose my weight if I put my mind into it. Too a year before a clear result happened though. But because I believe I can, I was able to lose weight.
- Realization. Beyond losing of weight is the fact that it is but half of the first battle of being healthy. In fact, the simplest thing that you can do in weight loss is losing the weight! IT IS NOT HARD AT ALL TO LOSE WEIGHT! That was my first realization. My second realization is after the euphoria of losing the weight; that super excitement that I was so full of energy for some weeks; is the lost of energy because I am at lost at what I should do next. I am at lost of what food, healthy food, to eat to keep my weight. I go on days at times, not eating in fear that if I eat the WRONG food, I will gain the weight I lost. I started working out (I got from youtube) at home when I lost my weight last September and I was happy with the result after two months. However, when I no longer have the idea what to eat and I did not eat, I can’t workout anymore and I lost the energy I so much crave at the start. I am also always bloated not to mention that I am in constant fear of gaining weight again. It is at this point that I realize I will need to have support from people who are on the same interest as I do in weight loss.
- You are not alone. I am not alone. I don’t need to lose weight alone. Losing weight is a great opportunity to meet people. When you get stuck and don’t know where to go afterwards, find people who understand just what you are going through. I found 8 Week Run Transformation with Mark Macdonald, an FB group (They have a website. That is where the link will guide you). I just stumbled upon them when I started to think about adding some activity so I can eat more. I thought to run. I never thought that this group is beyond running. I am just so lucky that I found the group, asked to join and they accepted.
Tomorrow, I am going to start an 8 week plan of eating healthy and keeping fit. And again, as I continue on my journey on keeping the weight I need, I know that weight loss is discipline, at first, because I have to follow a plan and need to keep at that to see good, consistent result. I also know, 9 months after I lost my first 9 kilos, that I need to have determination to keep it away too. And lastly, I know am on my way of having weight loss as a way of life because I start to feel enjoyment at what I do. I love planning my meal. I feel happy each time I discover what healthy food I can eat. And mind you, living in the Philippines, thinking the equivalent of the food recipe I read in the group is twice the challenge, something I look forward to do.
And yes, I will have a different blog for my weight loss journey so don’t worry if I seem to forget I was supposed to write about tips on how to be a VA and all that I used to write here. See you again next Tuesday for another Tuesday dose of VA lifestyle!